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MOXIE 2020 – Time for those resolutions

- Tobia 4 Comments

This post is one of my most cherished New Years Traditions. It all starts with finding a word for the New Year. Once that is done the goals, intentions and dreams are manifesting. Or is it the other way around? Do dreams lurk in the shadows of unconciousness and give hints so the right word emerges? Whichever way it is, it is working.

Looking back to the six+ years I have been doing the practice the words all have had value – some more some less:
💭 2013 – CRAFTALICIOUSME
💭 2014 – unfortunately I can’t remember a motto or word
💭 2015 – APPRECIATION
💭 2016 – LOSE
💭 2017 – BECOME Venturous & Lightsome
💭 2018 – BEAUTIFY
💭 2019 – TRUST

This years word will be MOXIE. I have not the slightest idea how that one sneaked up on me. I’ve heard of it but I couldn’t have told you what it meant. Maybe I still can’t quite grasp it but it feels right. The word is of Yiddish origin and the urban dictionary says: “It means a person full of energy, pep, courage or determination.” And that is exactly what I try to find, live and celebrate in 2020. Any additional layers this word offers will have to be discovered.

I am having one overall goal or intention this year and that is to wrap up projects. To no longer just talk about all the thing I’d like to do, to day dream about the the things that I start one day, when time is finally right. No this year I want to do. I want to find the ENERGY to start a project and finish it. To have enough focus and determination to see it through. On the other hand I need the courage to finally decide if certain things deserve to reappear on my to-do list over and over again. If I can’t find time and energy to start maybe it never was a project to follow through. And don’t forget the task that are a necessity to life that need to be taken care of, that spark no joy, that just belong to adulthood. I need to takle those as well. Don’t procrastinate, don’t find excuses – start, do, finish!

Then there are the hidden dreams, the nuggets of an unspoken ideas. The ones I lack the CONDFIDENCE to talk about, take the first step, just give it a chance to see if it is something worth persuing. The things that just need to be started and figured out while you are already on your way and wondering what took you so long to take that first step. I need to find my MOXIE. My spark that I have lost somewhere in the beginning of the last decade. I want to go out into the world and grab opportunities, leave my comfort zone, test out new things, speak my mind when necessary but also learn to find my inner core.

I will probably start by reading a couple books because you can never not be prepared. For one Elise’s book “Big Dreams, Daily Joys” I specially saved for January, And the other one “Step into your moxie” fitting my word perfectly. Maybe I’ll be recreating this sweater.

Did you choose a little word to guide you through 2020? Feel free to share in the comments, I’d love to hear it.

Happy New Year to you and may it be a perfect one to start off a new decade

Tobia

Reading Goals for 2019

- Tobia 4 Comments

In the last couple of years my reading has picked up significantly. I love it. I always read a lot during my childhood and I am really happy to have re-discovered this hobby. So for the first time I am attempting to write down some reading goals. I’ve never done it but got some inspiration from Lecy. So let’s see of this would work for me as well.

In the previous years I have mainly read free novels I could find on amazon for my kindle. So I figured I will give myself a budget in the beginning of the year to spend on reading otherwise I will again reach for free novels instead of books I really want to read. My hope is that I will end up with a mixture of books I discover and books I am interested because of recommendations. Also this way I could sign up for a monthly membership when I know I have a lot of reading time coming up. I need those tiny tricks to cheat myself into investing. Also last year I went ahead and bought the books I wanted to read right at the beginning of January.

I want to read 40 books in 2019. This is manageable as I read 50 last year. But I want to read a few more “complicated ones” which take more time for me. Ok, let’s see if I can sum up some books I want to read. Everything else is up to my mood.

Fiction Books
  • Jade City, Fonda Lee – I love fantasy and this seems to be a good one. ✔️Finished in May 2019
  • Strange the Dreamer, Laini Taylor – and here is another fantasy one with great reviews. ✔️ January 2019
  • Finishing the All Roads Lead Home, L.L. Ward series – I read the first one and really enjoyed it and just realized there are three more. ✔️ Forgetting There Finished June 2019, ✔️ Regretting There Finished July 2019, ✔️ Besetting There Finished July 2019
  • Book or author that won a Nobel Prize – thinking about The Unconsoled or The Burried Giant, Kazuo Ishiguro
  • Ice Genisis, Kevin Tinto – I really enjoyed the first book in the series so I am looking forward to see how this unfolds. ✔️Finished in May 2019
  • A Place called Freedom, Ken Follet – I haven’t read a book from him that disappointed and this one was on sale recently (0,99€) so of course I got it. ✔️Finished April 2019
Non-Fiction & Guidance Books
  • Non-violent communication: A language of life, Marshall A. Rosenberg – I’ve started this one in 2018 but didn’t get done. This is something I need to work through so I will continue and hopefully finish.
  • The Creative Habit: Learn stand use it for Life, Twyla Tharp – other book I am working on far too long. For some reason it’s not really captivating but everyone references to it. So this year I’ll give it another try.
  • A Brief History of Time, Stephan Hawkins – I asked for this one for Christmas. I know this will be a tough read so I got the illustrated version. But I also believe my mind will expand.
  • Born a Crime, Trevor Noah – I like him and his humor but I really interested in his story. In my teens I read a lot about South Africa and apartheid. ✔️ Done in October 2019
  • The Girl in the Letter, Emily Gunnis – read someones review and it ended up on my TBR list ✔️Done in February 2019
  • When Breath Becomes Air, Paul Kalanithi – I am interested but I am not sure if I am up to it. I know I will be very emotional here.
  • The Bible – never read it whole and my goal is for the coming years to read other religious books like the Koran, Thora or Pali-Kanon. Because it doesn’t hurt knowing more about things that are different. Jeannette posted a worksheet to help with this reading goal. ✔️Finished in December 2019
German Books

I set out last year to read more in my native tongue. I find it hard to do as usually those books are not as engaging for me. However I realized it is good to read German every once in a while. And some authors who neither write in English nor German I can easily read in the German translation.

  • Momo, Michael Ende – I’ve read this book but I believe I was too young back then and there will be lots of wisdom hidden within. ✔️Done in September 2019
  • One Book by Jules Verne – probably “Überwinterung im Eis” ✔️Done in July 2019
  • A Classic – I think it’s going to be Dracula, Bram Stoker which has been on my reading list way too long. It’s my only piece I own of my late father in law so it’s emotional. ✔️Done in October 2019
  • Blackout – Morgen ist es zu spät, Marc Elsberg – this one sounds really intriguing. All Europe without power after a hacker attack.

Well this is 19 books so far. All other ones I just pick up as I go to achieve my reading goal of 40 books. I will also aim to finish some of those series I started in the past years. I’m off to a good start as I just finished my first book in 2019. If you are curious which one that was, come check it out on Goodreads.

Now if you have any recommendations on how to handle an annual reading list or books I would enjoy, feel free to leave a comment.
Until then happy reading,

Tobia

TRUST 2019 – Time for those resolutions

- Tobia 2 Comments

I love writing this annual post. Setting goals and intentions is something I look forward to all through the December hustle.

2018 my goal was to BEAUTIFY life in four main areas: relationships, business, home and me. I did pretty good and achieved some good things in all areas while there is room for improvement in all areas as well. While I loved this word it was not as strong and present as the previous one. But it was always in the back of my mind nudging me.

Of course I planned to choose another word for 2019. It didn’t come to me as easily and don’t feel the tingling I’ve felt for previous words. For 2019 TRUST will be my companion.

TRUST new years resolution 2019

After many years of struggle I am currently happy and content with how life is unfolding. I don’t want much to change but there are always things to tweak. So I will trust that I will continue on this path. I will trust that good things continue coming my way. I will trust that heartaches will have a reason to be in life. I will trust that being kind to people, caring and helping will one day come back to me. In German the word “trust” translates to “trauen” and has another layer which can be roughly translated to “daring” in English. So I embark on this too. I will dare to tip my toes in new adventures. I will dare to try new things.

I have hard time coming up with an approachable list of goals one can cross off. I’ve again set four areas as this seems to work for me. Here is my attempt:

People & Relationships
  • trusting that kind gestures will come back
    • be kinder to stressed people like at the cashier, the call center agent, the mail man, etc.
    • writing cards to friends & family throughout the year
  • trusting that people don’t want to hurt me or intend to exploit me
  • trusting that I will make time to see friends, connect with old ones and maybe make a new one
Life
  • trusting that I will provide time to enjoy my hobbies
    • read 40 books (I’ll have a separate post in the works here)
    • craft more, blog more, create more
    • start another 100 day project (already having two ideas)
  • trusting that tough situations are here for a reason and we come out stronger
  • trusting that I will have interesting & challenging work projects coming my way
Dreams
  • trusting in new endeavours
    • seeing if the photography love can be professionalized a bit more
  • trusting in developing new skills
    • learning about image retouching
    • discover more options Lightroom and use it’s potential
    • dabble in video making
Body & Mind
  • trusting my body that it knows what it needs
  • trusting this year will be the year I establish a yoga routine
  • trusting I will continue to grow as a human
  • trusting I will again be able to spend 4 Spa Days with myself

I am sure I will add more things to the list during the year but for now I believe it is a good guideline. I wonder, do you pick a word to guide you through the year? Anyone ever had TRUST? Or what is yours.
Happy New Year

Tobia

Beautify 2018 – Time for those resolutions

- Tobia 4 Comments

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Good morning,

another year is in front of us – so pure, so innocent, so promising. All the possibilities, all the wonders, all the adventures. A blank slate. What will it be? I have a few ideas…

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But as always I like to check in and see how my resolutions turned out from 2017. You might remember that I had a word “become” and oriented my goals on that and only took a different approach for personal and business.

The more personal focused one was to “become more lighthearted” and was a bit tougher to achieve for me. I only went to the spa twice, I didn’t meet my friends as often as I’d liked and didn’t manage to write cards as I used back in 2014. One goal I didn’t tackle is my craft lab aka home office. But overall most of the times I felt more lightsome and lighthearted than in the past years. So think I can say this part of the word served me well.

As for the career part it was “become venturous”. And boy did this one fly. I started freelancing in March and business picked up really fast. I didn’t get to have a slow month to set up slowly and get settled in. I took a project across country and travel back and forth. So I say I am way out of my comfort zone here. And it feels good. I could not have though for a better word. My Dawanda shop and this blog fell a bit short though. However I managed to finish my photo class and ended that one with my first exhibition.

This was my strongest word yet and it served me very well. I had a really hard time finding a word for 2018 even though I started really early on Susannah’s email course and pondered all contenders for a day. And then it just snug up on me when I had my coffee: BEAUTIFY. I want to spread beauty through acting kind and giving back to the people who have supported me in the last years. The years that were not easy for me and that were a struggle. I want to make life, my relationships and my new business beautiful.

I came up with some tackle-able goals to achieve that.

1. Beautify Relationships

  • listening first and more before trying to say something
  • meet some friends I haven’t seen for so long
  • write a birthday card to every person
  • take some time to comment on blogs every week

2. Beautify Life

  • have a real vacation with hubby
  • laugh more and continue to be lighthearted
  • look for daily beauty – I am going to continue the gratitude journal and I am thinking about another 100dayproject probably some image or sketch related one
  • continue to create and learn and be amazed

3. Beautify Home

  • transform the craft lab into a working space and not a weird undefined in-between dwelling
  • declutter more more more, maybe do one of those 30 day declutter challenges?! Any suggestions?
  • make some apartment updates (new bed, some changes in the living room), etc.

4. Beautify Me

  • include more nature and outdoor activities and move more e.g. increase steps
  • treat myself to a spa day quarterly
  • reminding myself that beauty comes from within and that anger and negativity shows
  • living healthier

I am sure I will find many more small tasks & goals to fit under the big topics. And I like that because it makes it so approachable. And easier to actually get one step closer to the main goal. Maybe I check in with a monthly update once in a while because that really helped back in 2015.

But now lets get 2018 started – to a year of to BEAUTIFY!

Cheers,

Tobia

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GOOD TO SEE YOU, 2016 * TIME FOR THOSE RESOLUTIONS

- Tobia 5 Comments

One shouldn’t break the chain, right? So here I am telling you about my new years resolutions for 2016 just like I did in 2015, 2014 and 2013.

Before I make my goals for 2016 I like to have a look at last year. How did I do, where did I struggle and where did I excel.

♥ 1: Get healthy, feel better get back to yourself.

I didn’t do as great as I have hoped. I had a few good months in the beginning of the year where I ate healthier and lost some weight. I did start some exercise in the middle of the year and felt better but kinda lost it somehow. I still have back pains. So today I am basically where I have started out last year. I guess it’s somewhat of a win as I didn’t increase the problem.

♥ 2: Be nicer, be more patient, listen better.

Well, this one is a life goal, right. I don’t feel I gave it my all but tried nevertheless.

♥ 3: Declutter!

I did declutter quite a bit but there is still so much to do. Lots of clothes went to eBay and when I didn’t get them sold I donated it all. I still have some clothes and other things I want to sell.

♥ 4: Cook more (healthy) food.

Well I didn’t manage to cook one recipe from every book but when I looked for a new one I always decided to go with the one in a book I haven’t used yet. I made Chewy Pecan Brownies, Cucumber Potato Salad, Bread out of a pan a few more which didn’t make an appearance on the blog.

♥ 5: Invest time, fun and ideas into my Dawanda Shop.

This one was alright. I spent some time and money to make the shop more happy and fun to browse. I made a few sales however not as many as I would have liked. But then you have to start small, right?

♥ 6: Classics.

I started out strong in the beginning of the year but hoped to achieve more. Here is what I have read: Peter Pan, Alice in Wonderland, Moby Dick and I watched Breakfast at Tiffany’s and Jurassic Park.

♥ 7: Write more letters & postcards.

I am most proud of this one and it is the one I did the best on. I think I only missed one birthday and two or three people I saw on their special day anyways. So I am really happy with this one. And I did receive five Christmas Cards this year so I am happy.

♥ 8: Invest in blogging.

I did invest in blogging as I was traveling to London to be part of the blogtacular conference and meet Elisa there. While it didn’t give me as much as I had hoped for (hence the missing recap article) I still felt inspired. I also joined a few webinars and took notes. And I spend some time working on the blog changing my CSS. It is still scary and I have no clue how I did it but I know I can.

♥ 9: Staying creative.

I feel like I have been quite creative this year. Maybe in a different way then I have thought but still. I was doing a lot of drawing this year. It started out with a sketch note workshop with Frau Hölle in February. In May I participated in a Japanese calligraphy course where I learnt how to write with ink and a brush. It was so much fun and so mediative. In fall I had the chance to learn about hand lettering. I also sewed a bit: a purse, a dress for my godchild, a sweater and two long sleeves for myself. I made more jewelry and a lot of ornaments as Christmas gifts. I am happy with this one and hope I will continue.

So bye bye 2015 and lets get some resolutions for 2016 on paper.

new year resolutions 2016

I started out with a different approach this year.

Have you heard about choosing word for your year? I had already last year and loosely had ‘appreciation’ in mind. However this year I wanted to take the time and ponder over it a bit more. Susannah is providing a free workbook to unravel your last year and set goals for the next. I really recommend it as it is quite revealing. She also has a free mini email course to find a word. And Elise had a podcast (# 038) about this topic that I enjoyed a lot. After going through those exercises and an epiphany I decided on my word: L O S E
I know it sounds negative and that is what made me think about it a bit longer but it just feels right.

So my intentions for 2016 have this word in mind. Here they are:

1. Lose anger and negativity

This one is closely connected with my life at my day job. Specially after looking for a new job four years in a row I am really angry and negative about the whole situation. It’s not healthy – for me and my environment and it’s staining other areas. This needs to stop. I also file a few more things under this category but they include other people or are very personal so I will not go into detail here.

2. Lose clutter

Now this one is a huge one. Lose clutter physically meaning get stuff out of the apartment as soon as possible to make room to breath. It means virtually. I am having this crazy idea about deleting my entire feed reader and start out new. How many new blogs, people and ideas would I discover? Not sure if I dare to do so but if you want to make sure I stop by at you place leave a comment… But it also means declutter my brain and mental stage. Lots of thoughts hopping around, feelings I can’t quite put a name too and my migraine.

3. Lose unhealthy lifestyle

This includes the first two points as well as physical things. I want to eat healthier, move more and maybe find some relaxing method. I plan on signing up for a pilates class to try it.

4. Lose fear and self-doubt

This one is mainly connected to my blogging and Dawanda shop. I hope to learn to be proud of what I am doing. I hope to find like minded people to interact. Just connect a bit more. My attempts last year weren’t too fruitful.

5. Lose time wasting habits

How many times do we spend on checking emails, Facebook and such in the most unlikely places and unnecessary ways? How often do I end up in front of the TV instead of doing the “I never have time for this” projects. Hoping to carve some of that time and channel it to those projects.

And while I can’t fit all my goals under the word L O S E and since having good experience last year I have few more:

6. Write more

I want to continue to write postcards for birthdays and any occasion coming up. And I also want to write more blog posts. But it also means rediscovering journaling. I did that once in a while in 2015 and I want to keep a gratitude/happiness journal to help me with goal #1.

7. Stay creative

I plan on taking quite a few courses at the community college or online to learn about new creative techniques and such. I want to finally do the photo exercises from the Humboldt Fotoschule and I want to keep drawing and lettering. I also want to sew more clothes I can wear and I do need new purses.

This years goals are somewhat vague and I have to come up with a plan to put them in tasks otherwise I will not be very successful. Right now I am thinking of theme-months and January will be declutter. We’ll see how that goes.

I am ready 2016 but please treat me nicely! I am excited and hope it will be a good year. Do you set resolutions? Please share as I am always eager to snatch new ideas.

Happy goal setting,

Tobia